3 Hacks to Make an AWESOME New Year’s Resolution for 2014 (and What Probably Won’t Work)
Welcome to 2014- it’s a lot like 2013, but, this year, you feel something different. Maybe it’s the year you get that promotion or travel to India or get married or learn to ride a bike or start doing yoga- whatever it is, something is gonna happen and you’re gonna like it. You and a billion other people got drunk on December 31st, thought real hard about what you can do to make your life better and, by golly, you’re gonna do it! So there it is, in a few champagne breathes, you uttered your handful of slurred resolutions. And that’s not bad– it’s good to want to better yourself. It’s even good that you’ve done so when you’re drunk and any filters that would normally protect you from impending failure are gone. But what is bad is how you’re saying it. Although it started off as a pure thought, the way it manifested into words might lead to poison us. I think if you look at these hack to what normally would be problems, you’ll have a much better chance of becoming who you want to be in 2014.
Hack #1 Make it a Process
An issue I’ve seen with people is that they consider these resolutions to be platforms or places on a pedestal. They see them as lofty, almost to the point of unobtainableness. Something like “I will lose XX amount of pounds” or “I’m going to make $180,000 dollars” are great ideas– everyone wants to be healthy and rich– but Rome wasn’t built in a day. Huge accomplishments like that take time (it’s why you’ve made them resolutions for 2014 and not for just the first 3 weeks of January). Instead of making a goal a place you want to be in 12 months, make your resolution a process. Something like “I will go to the gym every other day” or “my company will take on 2 clients every month”. You’ll still have the same end result, however you’ll also be able to have sooner gratification that keeps you motivated.
Hack #2 Write Them Down
Ask someone their resolution from 2013. There’s a good chance they’ll say to you “… you know, I don’t know”. The reason they don’t know is because they’ve forgotten them (obviously) and you can’t do what you don’t know you’re supposed to (double obviously). Write down your resolutions or goals for the new year and put it somewhere you see every day. I have mine taped to my bedroom door so every day when get up I see “write every day” and “get 2 new clients every month” so even if I have a few days where I’m sick or too busy to write or a bad month, I’ll still wake up every morning and know what I’m working for.
Hack #3 Don’t go it alone
I talked to 50 people on last March at a mixer for Social media Folk and, because nobody wanted to talk about work, I brought up the topic of New Year’s Resolutions. Almost all of these motivated people who had built up strong followings on the internet had already failed keeping their resolutions. The most common answer was “I forgot for a week and at that point, it just wasn’t worth it to get back into it”. That happens sometimes, we all live extremely busy lives. So even if we remember our goals from day-to-day, a few incoherent moments of gobbling down laffy taffy could still happen, the trick is, not letting you convince yourself that all is lost. That’s why you need a partner. Find someone who has the same goal as you (or even has any goal at all) who will keep you accountable when you slip up. Failing isn’t messing up one time, it’s not continuing to work after you’ve suffered a setback.
tl;dr make it a process, write it down, get a partner for accountability.